There are several events in our lives that we might feel the exceptional need to be comforted by a group of friends or family as a support system. A break up or divorce is a prime example of such events, and it can be difficult to get out of the depressive mood one gets into if you don’t have anyone to support you. However, this article is about how you can pick yourself up with no help or support system - because sometimes privacy is needed too.
Get Comfortable By Yourself
After a bad break up, you might find that your thoughts aren’t the best companion and many people try to escape their thoughts by drinking or using other substances. Instead, get comfortable with being alone with your thoughts. A great way to do this is to go hot tubbing - in fact, get yourself one of those inflatable hot tubs (they’re not that expensive) and you can be completely alone. Try meditation in the hot tub, which will help you relax, and think clearly. A break up is not the end of the world - no matter how long the relationship was, or how much pain you currently feel.
Make Better Use Of Your Time
There’s no reason to waste your day moping about someone who is no longer part of your life. What’s done is done. You might as well keep yourself busy with a hobby. There are probably some hobbies that you stopped practicing during your relationship because there was no mutual interest in “your” hobby. Go out and do all the things you didn’t get the chance to do while you were in this now failed relationship. Live your life to the fullest and keep the past behind you - which is where it belongs anyway.
Don’t Be Irresponsible
Many people think that jumping back on the dating horse is the easiest way to forget an ex. More often than not, this will result in a really bad first date, and more pain and embarrassment for you. So, try to wait until you’re feeling better before you start dating again. There’s no rush, so dating can wait until you’re more level headed.
Give Yourself Permission To Express Your Feelings
If you feel like crying for a while, don’t feel sorry for yourself because you want to cry. If you’re angry and want to scream - then go ahead and scream. The beauty of being alone is that you can do whatever you want. Don’t lock up your feelings because the only out of the situation you’re in is to go through it. You’ll never get over the break up if you don’t give yourself permission to explore your emotions.
Getting over a major break up can seem devastating at first, but there’s light at the end of the tunnel. Take in each day on its own, and start slow - you’ll soon find that you are no longer thinking about your ex at all. The key is to work through your emotions and not to keep everything bottled up.